Last week I came across my Match.com profile.  Of course, the first thing I did was run it to Sean to read it back to him.  I thought he would get all mushy and reminiscent about our whirlwind love affair.  Well, that didn’t happen.  Instead he dropped to the floor in fits of laughter.  He couldn’t believe how much I wrote about myself.  My response to him: “you can’t believe I enticed you with a profile.”  Then we both fell to the floor.  It was all pretty hilarious.  Just so you all can share in the laughter, here is a snippet of what I wrote in the section  – About Me and What I’m Looking for:

I’m looking for a brotha’ who is in the place he wants to be in life or at least is heading in that direction.  Someone with good values.  I am a firm believer that men should be into their outward appearance as much as women are.  Apparently, today that would make him a “metrosexual.”  Well if that means you buy a new outfit for someone you would like to impress, you get a fresh hair cut before each date, or your belt matches your shoes…sign me up!  I’ll take a metrosexual man any day of the week.  Caveat—he must still be able to rock a pair of timbs and jeans.

Hilarity! But, at least it was honest and matter-of-fact.  And that’s what I suggest should go into an enticing online profile: honesty, humor, a sales pitch, crafty words and a killer sexy updated profile picture.  So, on this SINGLE LADIES FRIDAY I am sharing with you all a formula that will allow you to ENTICE HIM WITH A PROFILE.

Keep it real – Do not lie about your career, your weight, your hair, your height or who you are.  If you’re not ready to put your true self out there…you may not be ready for the dating thing.

Be clear on what you want – question: would you search for a job without knowing what you want to do every day, five days per week?  I’m sure your answer is NO.  Same goes for a man- you should not search for a man without knowing who you want to do every night, six nights per week.

Sell yourself – be shameless in your self-promotion.  Look it’s really cut-throat in the man search market.  Browse through your competitions profiles and make yours better.  That’s it- shameless with a purpose.

Hire a photographer if you have to- when I asked Sean what attracted him to my profile he said “the picture, I don’t think I really spent too much time on the words.” It does not make much sense to post a profile without an amazing face shot.  Try to post at least three more photos that give him a sense of your hobbies, body type, sex appeal, humor and friends and family –  as evidenced above guys do not really read.

Finally, just have fun with it.

Next week:  So many sites, so little time – part two of the four part series.

RoseyYNot – Contributing Editor

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