Serial Dating 101

Sunday…a walk through Central Park with Anthony. Tuesday…after-work drinks with Robert. Bowling with Julian on Wednesday and back out with Robert on Thursday. Ahh, the life of a Serial Dater.

Serial Dating (pronounced “Ce-real datin’) defined –the routine and repetitive practice of not investing all of your time and energy into one man; having choices and not waiting for a Dude to call; see also Having Fun.

At one time Serial Dating was a necessity. As a grad student it was the only means by which I could indulge in a five star restaurant. But then I realized there was something to this. When I had dates lined up, my dating life was in my control. If Anthony did not call when he promised, I simply dialed Robert’s number and headed out for a fabulous night out on the town. If Robert decided that he was not ready for commitment (…he never stood a chance anyway) I simply moved on. What these guys did not know was: I was perfectly fine with moving on or having them move on, because as a Serial Dater I had choices.

Dating without the pressure of wondering if he would call or ask me out for a second date was new. Prior to entering the world of Serial Dating, I dated with thoughts of becoming a girlfriend. I went out when he became available. The vision of what I wanted was blurred by what that one guy was willing to give. So I changed it up. Dating for the sole purpose of dating was so exciting. There were down sides (i.e. remembering facts). But the thrill of 2-3 nights of “first dates” in any given week had sooo many upsides.

Anthony was adventurous, Robert was fun and Julian was always available. I was dating with the sole purpose of having fun. In the end, they all got the “I’m not ready for commitment” talk. Turn the tables Ladies. Become Serial Daters. Date without a purpose. Have some fun and say Why Not to Tony, Bobby and Jay.

RoseyYnot – Contributing Editor

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