Mimi and I have been social friends for over 15 years. At any given shower, wedding or birthday party you could find us chit-chatting and giggling with each other. Outside of the occasional fete, we did not socialize much. I would say we became good friends about 5 years ago. Now we hang out, go to the movies, swap recipes and talk boys.
I always thought Mimi was distinctively attractive. She could walk into a room and command attention from everyone around. But there was something about her that would always make me think that she would have a hard time nabbing a man. As stated, Mimi is attractive, fun to hang with, smart, accomplished and the list goes on. The problem was that Mimi’s “Man nabbing Vibe” was off. She had an unapproachable and uppity air about her. Okay (in keeping it real) I would say that, on first impression, she was “stank.”
At the start of our friendship I did not feel comfortable sharing my thoughts with her. Since we’ve gotten closer I have shared. It was a simple conversation. I gently told her that on first impression she should try to radiate the person that she really is. I suggested that when she is in a social setting she should smile more, loosen up, flirt a little and engage people; especially those of the opposite sex. Mimi did not take offense to my suggestions; rather, she acknowledged that she could work on her first-impression skills.
So, on this Single Ladies Friday I pose the question: When was the last time you checked your “Man-nabbing Vibe” or had someone check it for you? Like Mimi, you might have it all going on. Yet, there is something about you that makes a Man approach a less attractive girl when you are standing right next to her. Maybe your weave is not as natural-looking as your stylist eludes; you might need a new wardrobe after the twenty pound weight drop; or maybe you shouldn’t include garlic in every meal. Your Vibe might be just right but the right guy just hasn’t come along. Whatever it is…ask your friends, an ex-boyfriend, your brother and even your mother. Then take some time to Check Your Vibe.

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Tags: Dating, First Impressions

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