Happy New Year’s to you all.  My apologies for the three week hiatus; at first I was suffering from holiday malaise, and then came the tragedy in Haiti…I just did not have the heart to blog.  I’m still sad, still praying for my people, but it’s time to get back to writing.  So here goes…

For the past couple of months I’ve been searching for my dream job.  The search has been really tough.  Partly since I am searching in one of the worst job markets ever, but mostly because I am determined to make a total career move.  In September I submitted my resume for an amazing position. One month later I was called in for the first interview.  You could not even imagine my level of enthusiasm.  The interview went well; I liked the interviewers, they liked me back.  We parted with handshakes and agreed to stay in touch.  I left excited and dreaming of the possibilities.  When I reached home I scribbled my signature over and over again with the prospective job title preceding my name.  A few weeks went by and I did not hear from them. I checked my phone; made sure my ringer was on.  I emailed myself to ensure that messages were going through. Then I became deflated. Just when I began to think “was I imagining that we hit it off?” they emailed.

Without skipping a beat I called back.  They wanted to arrange our next date meeting.  I brought a new outfit and just waited for the day.  By this time I was so invested I stopped sending my resume out for other prospects.  We had our second meeting and I swear it went even better than the first.  We exchanged pleasantries.  Conversation flowed.  We all lost track of time.  I was sure that I could stop searching.  It was the perfect fit.  They promised to call before the holidays.  We are twenty days into the New Year and they have not called.  They did send an email. I guess to keep me interested. Why can’t they just call…I just want to know?

So here I am, four months later, waiting and all I can think about is how much this PROCESS reminds me of my dating days.  The meet, the date, the wait for the next date.  The worst was when I thought “this is it!” and he never called.  Single Ladies, what do you then?  Do you call? Do you e-mail?  Do you get excited when he finally does call?  Here is what I really want to know (maybe a dude can answer) after a good first date and a great second date…why not just call?  If I am not the best candidate, I just want to know.

RoseyYNot – Contributing Editor

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