Posts Tagged ‘First Impressions’

{Preserve THE SEXY}

Friday, February 5th, 2010

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In preparation for one of my favorite holidays I made close to five appointments today.  I’m getting the hair done, nails done, feet done, eyebrows, facial, teeth cleaned and all other types of grooming.  After finalizing my maintenance plans, I started thinking…”OMG, have I become one of those women who only make maintenance appointments for special occasions?”  Tragically, the answer was Yes!  I started to reminisce on the days when I had standing appointments and there was no question I would meet my girlfriends at the salon.  It turns out that my girlfriends have stopped keeping their appointments too.

I understand why it has come to this.  Who has that kind of time on their hands anymore?  We’re big girls now; with big girl responsibilities.  Mortgages, bills, Work, bills, Cooking, Bridal Showers, Cleaning, Baby showers, Kids and Bills, Bills, Bills!   Who has 15 hours more per week to devote to maintenance?  Well, I’ve resolved that I need to get those 15 hours back!  And, so do all of the 30+ Single Ladies who’ve stopped prioritizing maintenance.  There is major competition out there.  These 20 year old chicks, with no real responsibilities, have time to keep it sexy…so we need to preserve ours.

Most hair salons take their first Saturday morning appointment at 7:30 am.  Forget those extra hours of sleep.  Handle your maintenance and by 7:00pm it should all be done.  Look, it’s a fact that these 20 year olds don’t have to work as hard as we do.  They’re still tight and perky.  But, there is no question we have it all; looks, common sense, careers, experience and money.  So on this Single Ladies Friday, I am addressing this issue and promising that as long as we PRESERVE THE SEXY our 30+ men are not going anywhere…(yeah I said it: with three snaps in a Z formation).

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Check Your Vibe

Friday, November 13th, 2009

RoseyMimi and I have been social friends for over 15 years. At any given shower, wedding or birthday party you could find us chit-chatting and giggling with each other. Outside of the occasional fete, we did not socialize much. I would say we became good friends about 5 years ago. Now we hang out, go to the movies, swap recipes and talk boys.
I always thought Mimi was distinctively attractive. She could walk into a room and command attention from everyone around. But there was something about her that would always make me think that she would have a hard time nabbing a man. As stated, Mimi is attractive, fun to hang with, smart, accomplished and the list goes on. The problem was that Mimi’s “Man nabbing Vibe” was off. She had an unapproachable and uppity air about her. Okay (in keeping it real) I would say that, on first impression, she was “stank.”
At the start of our friendship I did not feel comfortable sharing my thoughts with her. Since we’ve gotten closer I have shared. It was a simple conversation. I gently told her that on first impression she should try to radiate the person that she really is. I suggested that when she is in a social setting she should smile more, loosen up, flirt a little and engage people; especially those of the opposite sex. Mimi did not take offense to my suggestions; rather, she acknowledged that she could work on her first-impression skills.
So, on this Single Ladies Friday I pose the question: When was the last time you checked your “Man-nabbing Vibe” or had someone check it for you? Like Mimi, you might have it all going on. Yet, there is something about you that makes a Man approach a less attractive girl when you are standing right next to her. Maybe your weave is not as natural-looking as your stylist eludes; you might need a new wardrobe after the twenty pound weight drop; or maybe you shouldn’t include garlic in every meal. Your Vibe might be just right but the right guy just hasn’t come along. Whatever it is…ask your friends, an ex-boyfriend, your brother and even your mother. Then take some time to Check Your Vibe.

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